So I was at a baby shower the other day and I heard this statement. In context of someone commenting on one of the women there who had been divorced. And who God-forbid wasn't re-married. I've heard and done work around this before as I've definitely had it said to me time and time again. So let's analyze and see how it works. Karen: "Oh, is Susie married?" Diane: "No, she's divorced" Karen: "Aw, poor thing. Did she get re-married?" Diane: "No" Karen: "Awww" Saying this state

If being and becoming a Mom is a test for your anxiety, worrying and overthinking everything then, it’s the best one there is. And it’s a journey not everyone gets to experience. I definitely took it for granted, I mean... growing up we were told you could easily get pregnant and how careful you had to be. So why wouldn’t you be able to get pregnant on your honeymoon, or as soon as you wanted? Why wouldn’t this be something in life that could be perfectly thought out and pla

The buildup to having a baby is a big one. The wait. The excitement, the anticipation. It’s a life change, a momentous event. And then the buildup to having a baby when you waited years and went through infertility treatments is even more of a climb. Like hiking up a mountain, without water on no sleep, in the dark… sans flashlight. That kind of climb. And then you get to the top the instant the sun peaks over the mountain and illuminates the whole sky. And you feel that acco

We've heard this term before, right? Stop "shoulding" all over yourself. Have you ever been trying to enjoy something and you can't because you feel like you should be doing something else instead. Spending time with your family but thinking you really should be working. Relaxing or doing something fun but you feel as though you should be productive. Sitting down on the couch during naptime and watching Below Deck Med and Eating Stacy's Pita chips when really you 'should' be

The Surprises. The expectations. And visa versa. Everyone has expectations of what they think this is going to be like, right? Motherhood, being a parent. A lot of the excited expectedness was all the fun times. The zoo, the birthday parties, the laughter, the love. And of course you think about the crying and the diapers and all the hard stuff. Obviously it's going to be hard. And especially when you are an #infertilitywarrior , when you suffered for years #ttc . And you kno

You don't need to wait for someone to tag you and give you permission to feel good about yourself, to post a black and white photo. To feel sexy. To make money, to want to be successful. We tend to down play ourselves as women as to not over shine anyone else. To not make anyone else feel bad or feel not good enough. Because really do we not feel like we are enough, ourselves? You don't need to be asked, to be told it's ok to want things. To want your dream life. It's ok to w

How to tune out to tap in. I've been noticing lately the overload of information that is out there. Like, so much information everywhere we go. Even when you are pumping gas there is a tv with the news on. Facebook, Instagram, ads, ads, ads, signs, billboards, new, news, news, radio, commercials, information overload. Do you feel like you can't get away from it sometimes? And what is truly true vs what's being filtered? And on top of all that it's then everyone's opinions and

I don’t care about the mess. Because that’s how it is now. And it bothers me some but not enough to take me out. Or to miss out. If being a parent is a test of your anxiety level, patience and second guessing every single thing you do… then it’s a damn good one if I ever saw. I had lots of ideas what I thought this would be like: MOTHERHOOD. The cute stuff, the fluff, the perfect pictures. The birthday parties, playing with barbies and family gatherings. And that’s the thing