Let's talk about cutting out the 'being perfect', along with the carbs and our new years resolutions this year. Right there with the resolutions can set you up for the strive to be perfect, in turn setting yourself up for failure. We want to set ourselves up for success! So instead of making a resolution that we beat ourselves up if we can't keep, let's create instead. Create something new, create space, create new ways of being. The strive for perfect will kill you. Ok, so n

We've heard this term before, right? Stop "shoulding" all over yourself. Have you ever been trying to enjoy something and you can't because you feel like you should be doing something else instead. Spending time with your family but thinking you really should be working. Relaxing or doing something fun but you feel as though you should be productive. Sitting down on the couch during naptime and watching Below Deck Med and Eating Stacy's Pita chips when really you 'should' be

Following “The Rules”. . . Do you have a rule book for yourself? The should’s and should not’s that you “allow” yourself to do. Do you hold yourself back from things? Or tell yourself you need to wait to do something you really want? I’m not ready. I need to accomplish THIS before I can try doing THAT. I have to lose 5lbs before I wear the new bikini. I have to be single for x amount of months before I can date again. I can’t eat that donut unless I do the stair climber for 4

Yes, I actually wrote that title... it's not the one that came with the template. Been thinking a lot lately about WHY - and the why things happen. I've done a lot of "why me's" in my lifetime. And a lot of those were recent in the last few years. Dealing with #infertility there were a lot of "why the fuck is this happening to ME!"'s. And in times like these no one wants to hear "Everything happens for a reason". PAHlease. When you are hurting, and grieving and sad and dealin